Man I hate them. Body image issues.. I've always had them. Even as a very young child. These issues go back almost as far as I can remember. I just dont feel comfortable in my skin or body at least 80% of the time. Its rare that I dont have that nagging twinge that draws my attention to my discomfort. I think its a major contributor to my daily anxiety that also dates back to my earliest memories. Hey and another thing that dates back to close to earliest memories is abuse. Now, I have realized for quite some time that my body image issues, anxiety and abuse issues are braided. Therapy has not effected this this area of my life unfortunately and I have yet to figure out how to escape the discomfort of the "braid."
I am so blessed to be with someone who loves the way I look and tries very hard to make me feel comfortable and loved despite my sensitivities and hangups.
This is a very frustrating area of life for me and often trips me up despite my efforts to address it. I crave so badly to be comfortable in my own skin. Many of my friends in their 40s and 50s say that self acceptance starts to happen after one's 30s.
I look forward to the day that I dont feel that twinge. That feeling that has the ability to take me back to many places in my history that I'd rather not visit as often as I tend to. I just need to figure out how to get to that day.

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I just started reading a book, "Healing Sex." I am hoping it will help me work through some of my various similiar issues. http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Sex-Mind-Body-Approach-Sexual/dp/1573442933
I wish there was a magic wand but I don't think there is. It took a lot of years and trauma to create that knotted braid. It will probably take a lot of years of active healing to untangle it from your psyche. I'm glad that you have a understanding and supportive partner. It is my hope that you will be equally loving and affirming of yourself!
I believe time does help! I am glad you have someone to lift you up. Hang in there.
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